People come to therapy for many different reasons.  Once in my office they and I join forces and patiently and gently undo, deconstruct, and closely examine life stories. It always comes down to people wanting to be happy/content. People who come to me are often feeling disconnected, unhappy, unloved, ignored, and disregarded. Together we sort through the chapters that compose their unique stories to arrive at a good idea of what paths may lead to a clearing—a place of new possibilities.

When seekers come as couples, they often want better communication, more affection, and a greater sense of connection to their partner, and less bickering. Many grieve the absence of romance in their relationships. For others, the idea of romance is a vague recollection triggered occasionally by a scent, a song, or a memory. Without fail, couples are convinced that life would be better if only their partner would change. Sometimes couples come hoping to heal a relationship seriously wounded by infidelity. In those cases, conventional wisdom tells them that the offending partner is clearly to blame for the sadness and unhappiness they are experiencing while the offended partner is clearly the victim. These couples find themselves in the midst of a storm that threatens to tear their lives apart.

Sometimes singles, usually women, come speaking of feeling sad, lonely, isolated, and wounded by the men who left their lives. They feel conflicted—fearful of trying again, while simultaneously longing to be connected to a loving romantic life partner.

With hard work and commitment we are often able to transform the old into something new that overrides, fears, limiting beliefs, and lack of self-acceptance.